Early this week I re-posted my What is Thinspiration post, and today I wanted to re-post my Fat-shaming vs. Skinny-shaming part two post. I’m re-posting these because after the blog re-launch there are a couple of posts on body positivity I want to do.I always research a topic before I write anything about it, I did that for part one, and I, of course, did that for this one as well. I ended up coming across an article that was titled along the lines of “Why Skinny Shaming is Not The Same as Fat Shaming,” and of course being the naturally curious person I am had to check it out.
I thought I would get some explanation as to why it’s not the same, but I walked away from the article with fat shaming is bad because it triggers bad memories and feelings for those receiving the comments, and skinny shaming isn’t a “real” problem, and for all thin people to just watch tv or open a magazine and you can see your body type being praised, because for someone who is overweight it’s just a negative experience all around.
For someone to say skinny shaming isn’t “real” is unbelievable. Because I can’t speak for someone receiving comments based on fat shaming, but anytime I get a comment like “eat a cheeseburger,” it still hurts, and momentarily makes me think that something is wrong with how I look. Which I imagine is how it feels on the other side of the spectrum as well. Because we’re all human, and we all have feelings.
Plus opening a magazine and seeing your body type “praised,” isn’t exactly a good thing either when all of those images are airbrushed and look nothing like the original photograph. Plus just because a body type is praised, doesn’t make it okay to make rude and insulting comments on it, and just because a body type isn’t appreciated doesn’t mean it’s okay to comment on it either. So all I have to say to the person who wrote the article is:
My Views on it
I’m 5ft 6in maybe 5ft 7in, with a wrist a bit smaller than 5.75in. Meaning I have a small frame size, so does every female in my family, I don’t have curves, and none of the women have curves in my family either.
However when I was small, I was a chubby little thing like most children, and then when I was twelve, I slimmed back down just like most kids. So I can’t base my insecurities when I was chubby because I was chubby, or because I was just a preteen and that’s what you do when you’re a preteen you become insecure about everything. However I of course, like everyone, still have insecurities. So I can’t talk much about fat shaming and how it feels because I haven’t experienced it, especially when compared to how I’ve experienced skinny shaming.
I believe the size of someone isn’t your business… it’s theirs. To me, the most important thing for anyone is that they’re healthy, they exercise, and they eat healthily. Because I think that’s the most important thing for anyone is to try to be healthy. If you’re able to do so and be thin, great, if you’re able to do that and be bigger than society wants you to be, great. Who cares what anyone else thinks or says, as long as you’re healthy and happy, that’s all that matters.
Search Terms for Part One –
I wanted to go over some of the search terms that have brought people to my part one post. Mainly because I find them kind of intriguing.
Search Term #1 – Songs fat-shaming
Part one was mainly about Meghan Trainor’s All About That Bass, which caused a lot of controversy due to two particular lines. Which many took as her shaming people who were “skinny,” I don’t think that was her intent at all, but I can also see how it was perceived that way.
Search Term #2 – What to say to people who skinny shame?
This depends on if it’s aimed at you or someone else. Personally, when it’s aimed at myself, I just brush it off, because typically it’s said by someone who is built bigger than I am, and when someone makes comments to try to hurt another person, it’s done so out of their insecurities. So I know that they have stuff they’re going through, and their problem isn’t with me.
The same can typically be said when it’s aimed at someone else as well. So I recommend not saying anything because they’re only saying it out of their issues, and with something as sensitive as body shaming, you can’t win the argument, that will come out of saying anything.
Have you ever dealt with body shaming? What’s your stance on the whole thing?
Ally Gonzales is the founder & editor-in-chief of RunningSoleGirl. Along with blogging she is also juggling attending college and majoring in Exercise and Sports Science with a Sports Management minor.