Due to recent personal life events, I thought I would talk about separating your personal life, and your blogging life. This line at times can be blurry, especially if you’re a lifestyle blogger. Because your blog is based on your life. However, it’s important to know where that line in the sand is drawn between the two. Here are my views on personal life vs. blogging life.
The reasoning I’m writing this post is because of recent life events, and getting asked why I took a break from the blog, and social media while I went through that. Last week I published a post explaining the reasoning as to why I took a sudden week off from the blog. In that post, I explained that I lost my furry best friend of twelve years.
I posted on Facebook, and Twitter this statement:
Hey lovelies, due to personal things going on behind the scenes of the blog there will not be any posts this week. I promise to be back on Monday though!
Some of you lovelies sent messages hoping everything was okay, and that I should take as much time as needed to handle my personal matters. Which thank you lovelies so much, it meant/means a lot!
Then there was some that didn’t seem to understand why I was taking a break, and not discussing it at the time despite being a “lifestyle” blogger. Which is how this post was born.
Lifestyle bloggers, unfortunately, get labeled as the ‘over-sharing bloggers.’ Granted I’ve seen many lifestyle bloggers who do this. I remember one lifestyle blogger who posted about getting her daughter a ‘welcome to womanhood basket,’ with pictures and everything, and that’s one of the more conservative extreme posts I’ve seen.
However, I’m here to set the record straight. Not every lifestyle blogger shares every detail of their life. Most of my fellow blogger friends who fall into the niche of ‘lifestyle’ only share a tiny fraction of their life.
Most only show the rainbow, and lollipop side of their life, but many others share both sides.
That’s what we call the line in the sand. We all draw that line at different points. Where I draw my line, it might be a lot more conservative than where blogger ‘A’ draws theirs, or maybe it’s considered ‘raw’ when compared to blogger ‘B.’
We all have limits to what we feel is ‘okay’ to share, and what should remain private. Because I know as a blogger we spend so much time writing about our lives in our posts, sharing pictures on social media, small social media updates here and there, that it can seem like we’re an open book.
When you think of what a blogger does, it goes beyond just writing a post and hitting publish. We have social media, e-mails, typically a workshop of some kind, etc. Add that plus going through personal matters, and it can become over-whelming.
Especially since I’m the type of person that’ll dive headfirst into things I’m passionate about to try to avoid dealing with issues – a bit of a workaholic here. Which is why I took those ten days off when I lost Birdie. Because I knew if I didn’t take the time to go through that process, I would’ve never dealt with it until it came up in a therapy session later on in life, and it being the reason I developed an irrational fear of straws or something.
My point is, sometimes people need to take a step back, disconnect, breathe, and figure out where their mind is. Because my mind the ten days after – and even still almost three weeks later – is still in a weird place.
This also isn’t me complaining about being a blogger; I love blogging. I love the friendships I’ve made, the lessons I’ve learned, and the amazing opportunities we’ve achieved this year.
This post was merely inspired by a few messages I got wondering why I wasn’t immediately addressing the issue. Plus I’ve also seen other bloggers ranting about this type of problem. I guess we’re letting the internet trolls win this one aren’t we?
My piece of advice for personal life vs. blogging life? Just this:
Boundaries are personal property lines that define who you are and who you are not. Don’t be afraid to draw them!
What’re your thoughts on personal life vs. blogging life?
Thank you lovelies for reading, and I know this probably wasn’t the most informative post, but it was something I needed to get off my chest. What’s a lifestyle blog without a rant here and there? I’m just kidding… maybe… not really.
Ally Gonzales is the founder & editor-in-chief of RunningSoleGirl. Along with blogging she is also juggling attending college and majoring in Exercise and Sports Science with a Sports Management minor.