Everyone cares about their friends, that should hardly come as much of a surprise to anyone! Your friends and loved ones are the people around you who make life more than just a day-to-day slog of going to work and coming home again. They are the people you go on adventures with, that you make memories with, so it only makes sense that you would always have your friends best interests at heart, no matter what. Of course, that doesn’t mean that lending a hand to your friend when they need it is easy. In fact, it’s one of the toughest things that you can do. Knowing how to respond to something that a loved one is going through can be a real challenge but, when the only other option is leaving them behind, it’s worth putting in the effort. Here are a few things that you can do to reach out to someone you love in order to offer them the best possible support.
Sometimes, when you’ve got a friend or loved one who is going through something really difficult, it can be almost impossible for them to see a way out of it. Whether they’re stuck in a job that they hate, they’re dealing with a nasty break-up, or going through any of the other things that can knock a person to the ground; they’re often not in a position to see things practically. In that case, you’re in a great position to offer them a perspective that they simply can’t otherwise achieve. You can help them understand the big picture and see that. However, bad things might seem right now; they won’t be that way forever.
Of course, sometimes the help that you give to your friends needs to be a little harder edged than that. There are plenty of occasions where the problems that someone is having are down to their actions alone. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be there for them. Just that you need to adjust your tactics. While offering them solutions can often be incredibly useful; sometimes what they really need it a kick up the backside to get them back on track. If there’s an aspect of their lifestyle which is hurting them and other people around them, then you may need to be the one to confront them about it, pointing them towards things like the recovery village if they really need support. If things aren’t working out in your friend’s life and it comes down the way that they are behaving; your duty as a friend should be to be to hold them accountable.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is actually the simplest thing: just listen to them. When someone is going through something difficult, it can feel incredibly lonely and frustrating for them. Because of this, just getting to vent to another person, or talk something through can be the most helpful thing of all. Don’t feel like you always have to be there to come up with solutions for them; sometimes just being there so that they can bounce thoughts and feelings off you, coming to their own set of solutions, is the most valuable thing of all.